| | Here is a story wish to share with the readers.
There is one girl, with the enthusiastic encouragement by the colleague, she accepted one of the male colleague who going after her. Therefore the love journey begun.
Somehow, the girl¡¯s feeling started to fade as time goes by, she started to wonder the feeling toward the guy is it love or not. Time pass they rarely contact and at last they break off.
After that, this girl get known to another guy, this guy also going after this girl enthusiastically and she accepted him but this relationship only last for 2 years. The girl can merely has any feeling toward the guy¡¯s love.
After a period of time, this girl start to notice on of this guy, she has the kind of excitement which wants to be with him, therefore she go and get known to this guys initiatively, and become friends. Eventually this two becomes lovers.
In this third relationship, she realized that she never cares about a person that much, she cares about her past, she cares about her colleague or the relationship with her female friends, her lifestyle and family etc¡¦., she hope they care about him as how she does. She wondered, suppose this is the feeling of true love?
At last they married, she is not fulfilled by the love the husband given, she felt that the love she given didn¡¯t get 100% in return then she started to regret.
In this story, the girl¡¯s first and second boy friends are the one who loves her. However the husband is the one she loves.
Choose the one that loves her, she is not sure whether she loves them or not, even thou they miss each other but only up to certain level, she wont argue about each other¡¯s stuff. It is just plain generosity or should consider not concern at all¡¦.
She found out that, the one she had decide to have family with, she realize that she had became selfish, she minds on everything, since she loves him , she wish she can control him, wants everything to be on her way.
She realized to love a person makes her unhappy. Yet when she has been loved, she didn¡¯t concern much on that particular person.
She had been loved before, the girl realized, to love a person without obtaining the same level of love in return, the party who gives love will become imbalance, she is an example, the husband do not follow as how she wants makes her fall, feeling that she and her husband lost the balance.
Still remember this girl said, when she love a person, she loves him more than he does. But when he loves her more, she felt suffocated(or pressured), she cant find the point which is balance between their relationship. Therefore she decided to give up to end the relationship.
Very often, we cant get 100% return for what we give, one will feels imbalance on the path of love, start to feel bad and sad, cant think logically for relationship problems. This Is the time the relationship reached its limit.
While in a relationship, if you don¡¯t want the person who loves you, loving you too much, makes you felt the pressure, or cant return as much as the opposite party given. Therefore do not request for the one you love does as well.
No matter how you choose; the one you love or the one loves you, as long as you love each other, obtain the balance in between. Eventually the relationship will be fine and do not need to worry about decision between the one you love and the one love you . Am I right?
"Itulah cinta, di saat kita merasa cinta itu telah beransur-ansur hilang dari hati kita kerana kita merasa dia tidak dapat memberikan cinta dalam "kewujudan" yang kita inginkan, maka cinta itu telah hadir dalam "kewujudan" yang tidak pernah kita bayangkan sebelum ini" -sepet- |
